What happens if we are not in good and regular contact with our child? In this case, children are more often capricious and hooligan, their self-esteem becomes lower and tension increases in the family. Here are five easy ways to establish and maintain contact with a child. They are so simple that we sometimes do not realize how important they are to our children.
▪️Frequent tactile contact with a child
Touch eases pain, reduces anxiety, softens life's blows, gives hope and heals. Hold hands, stroke your legs and back, hug.
▪️Rejoice when you meet a child
It is often possible to watch parents pick up children from school without breaking away from a mobile phone. What does this teach our children? Instead, distract yourself from whatever you do and welcome the baby as if you haven't seen it in a week or even a month.
Note to parents of adolescents: outwardly, they can show dissatisfaction with such behavior of parents, but in fact it is very pleasant for them.
▪️Ask your child for advice
Ask your child for advice on some of your business, take advantage of what he advises you and share the result with him, praise him. This will raise the child's self-esteem and help him feel meaningful and important.
▪️Ask your child to rate you
When putting a child to bed, ask them to rate you as a parent on a scale from 0 (the worst parent in the world) to 10. If the score is less than 10, ask what can you improve? (You can also do the same exercise with your spouse).
▪️When you talk to your child, make eye contact
Have you ever had your interlocutor look at the phone or at passers-by, anywhere but at you? How did you feel?
Parents are often too busy to even look at their children while talking to them. Prolonged eye-to-eye contact tells your child (and spouse) that they are important to you, that you appreciate and respect them. Eye contact also tells your child (spouse) about your openness.
✅How to keep in touch with your child. Exercise
Choose the method of keeping in touch with your child that you use the least and practice it this week. Keep notes of how you bonded and what results you achieved. Feel free to share your insights and results on social media or in the comments below this article.
Research shows that those who write about their successes are more likely to do the things that made them successful again. In addition, you can inspire other parents and help them connect better emotionally with their children too.
We wish you mutual understanding with your child and happy parenthood!
Yours, Niels Hansen
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