A family is a small country, with its own laws, orders and set of rules. Of course, no one will peek through the keyhole, but to understand what principles are preached in each family is very simple - just look at how children grow up. Babies are like sponges, absorbing both the good and the bad. Therefore, it is important that good and correct principles dominate in the family.
How to create a friendly and happy family? What rules to follow?
RULE 1. LIABILITY
There must be a clear understanding in the family that parents are parents and children are children. Of course, no one has canceled the factor of friendship between generations, but parents should understand that it was they who took responsibility for creating a family and raising children. Do not shift this burden on children's shoulders. Avoid permissiveness. Certain boundaries that mom and dad put in front of the child will help him better navigate life situations and feel calmer.
RULE 2. BROTHERS AND SISTERS
There should be no competition between sisters and brothers in a family. Adults should not compare children and, reproaching one, praise the other against this background. Neither grades, nor the performance of household chores, nor the manifestation of talents can be the reason that parents provoke competition between relatives. Children should hear that each of them is able to achieve something and prove himself, they should learn to help each other and be proud of the success of the family.
RULE 3. PENALTIES
No matter how the child is guilty, parents should understand that this is not only his misfortune, but also some kind of omission of the parents themselves. It is upbringing that leads to certain actions. Look at the issue from this angle, and there will always be extenuating circumstances that will not allow you to be cruel to a child.
RULE 4. JOINT LEISURE
Spending time together brings you closer. Sincere conversations allow you to tune in to the same wave, share experiences and enjoy success. In close-knit families, problems and joys are common. Problems divided among all family members no longer seem so large-scale, and joy, on the contrary, multiplies many times over.
RULE 5. HONESTY
Honesty to yourself and to your children. Parents need to be clear about not lying to their children. They are sensitive to untruth, and the line between right and wrong is very thin at this age. If parents say one thing and do another, then children remember actions. Trust is not easy to build, but it can be destroyed overnight.
And now it is not only about the truth and lies in its purest form. Distrust can also arise from the fact that children see that the words of their parents are at odds with their actions. Dad says that smoking is bad, but he smokes. Mom says that gadgets should be limited, while she herself surfs the Internet whenever possible.
There should be no double standards and norms of behavior. Otherwise, parents risk losing the most important thing - the trust of their children.