Conflicts between parents and children are always very unpleasant. Often they create a tense atmosphere at home, lead to long-term resentment and deterioration of family relationships. In our article, we will look at the most common causes of conflicts between parents and teenagers. You will learn why conflict occurs and how to deal with the situation.
Why do conflicts between children and parents occur?
Any conflict is a clash of interests. The most common causes of conflicts between parents and children are the following points:
1. The child wants to get more freedom, to become independent, and parents limit this. There is a lot of control on their part, which is completely unpleasant for the child.
2. Parents are busy, and the child wants to get more attention. Moreover, sometimes even he himself does not understand this, but here any methods are used to attract this attention.
3. The parent knows exactly how the child should act, with whom to be friends, what to do, but the child does not agree. A teenager wants to manage his time himself, choose a circle of friends. And attempts by adults to intervene are perceived aggressively.
Of course, conflicts between parents and children happen for other reasons as well. The most interesting thing is that if you take a closer look at the cause of the current situation, you can find many common interests for the parties in it. And this is an effective way to resolve conflicts.
A few rules for developing responsibility that parents need to know about:
1. It is good if the child takes part in the discussion of issues important to him - this is the basis of goal setting, motivation and responsibility.
2. In order to maintain a harmonious atmosphere in the family and avoid unnecessary conflicts, it is better to shift training to a neutral object - a teacher, a tutor. The question is do you need it? The teacher teaches, the child learns. What are you doing here? Parents should not take on the role of a teacher. You already have a very important role in your child's life. If the roles are correctly distributed, then there will be less quarrels at home, and the child will subsequently learn responsibility when performing tasks in front of the people who teach him.
3. It is important to periodically remind yourself for whom the child is studying. If for himself, then he himself is responsible for his studies before the teachers and before himself. If for you, and you are responsible for this process to the teacher, it is unlikely that the child will become responsible for this.
4. School is a stage in a person's life, and a good platform for children to prepare for this very life.
Give your child the opportunity to go through this stage and gain the necessary skills.”
The main thing to remember is that in the family the main thing is love. And you will always remain for each other the closest and dearest people.