What changes in the life of parents!
With the advent of the baby, new parents begin a new life, the psychology of the family and its members changes. What transformations are undergoing the relationship of spouses?
Change of priorities in life
Before the appearance of a baby in the family, the spouses were united by positive emotions that they received while being with each other, a feeling of love and care. And now in the foreground is the responsibility for the child, the feeling of unity caused by common affairs.
Fatigue and new obligations lead to the fact that young parents do not show love for each other, but at the same time they need it. As a result, both spouses may experience discomfort: a woman may feel abandoned, unwanted, unloved, and men may feel jealous. In addition, quite often, after the birth of a child, young fathers notice a cooling of feelings in their wives, a loss of interest in intimate life, and a lack of desire to maintain external attractiveness.
How to fix the situation:
▪️Remember that such moments are natural and arise not because of the negative qualities of a spouse, but because getting used to a new parental role is far from easy;
▪️Discuss emerging negative experiences, talk about feelings, negative emotions, do not blame the other for lack of love and inattention;
▪️It is important for men to realize that disharmony in intimate relationships is a temporary phenomenon that can be overcome by taking on some of the care of the child and giving the wife the opportunity to rest;
▪️It is important for a woman to try to take care of herself and not forget about her husband.
No time for being alone
Previously, the couple went to the cinema together, to the club, to visit, and now young parents, if they manage to escape somewhere without a baby, then they have to do it alone, since someone has to stay with the child. Some couples find it difficult to come to terms with the forced separation of entertainment, which often breeds conflicts.
How to fix the situation:
▪️Strive to distribute entertainment fairly;
▪️Trust each other;
▪️Spend time together, find interesting joint activities.
Distribution of duties
The biology of a woman helps her very quickly begin to fulfill her maternal responsibilities. The role of the husband is not so obvious, and at first his help can be useful in matters of child care and household chores, to which most men are not accustomed.
How to fix the situation:
▪️Clearly state the duties that each of the spouses performs so that in the future there will be no mutual insults and accusations;
▪️It is important for a man to make a choice of one of two positions: he does not actually participate in the care of the baby, but fully and at a higher level ensures the material well-being of the family, or he takes part in the care of the child on the principles of equality.